‘Sex With My Boyfriend is Rubbish; I’m Having Fun Sleeping with Different Men’

A 22-year-old woman has revealed how dissatisfaction with her relationship has led her to maintain sexual relationships with three different men, including her boyfriend, while admitting that the situation has left her exhausted.

The woman confessed in a relationship advice column in the British newspaper The Sun, in its Dear Deidre feature.

According to her account, she is currently dating a 26-year-old man whom she described as quiet and kind but said she finds him boring. She complained that their conversations were uninteresting and their sex life was unsatisfying.

The woman said she had begun questioning the future of the relationship, insisting that she did not believe her boyfriend was the right person for her.

She explained that her situation changed about a month earlier when she went out with some female friends and unexpectedly met her former drama teacher, who is now 31.

She said the encounter happened outside a pub, where they spent hours talking after recognising each other.

According to her, the former teacher had been flirtatious and offered to walk her home. However, when they arrived near his house, he invited her inside, where they kissed and subsequently had sex.

She disclosed that the encounter was followed by another development when her former boyfriend contacted her two nights later.

Although she described her ex as emotionally immature and unreliable, she admitted that their sexual relationship had been satisfying.

The woman said she agreed to meet him again, claiming that their encounters had since become regular.

She revealed that within five days, she had slept with all three men, including her current boyfriend, sometimes meeting the other men in a car or at her former partner’s apartment.

Despite acknowledging that she was cheating, she admitted enjoying the excitement of having multiple relationships.

She also disclosed that her best friend found the situation amusing, while her current boyfriend remained unaware of her activities.

According to her, she continued having sex with her boyfriend even though she was dissatisfied with their intimacy.

However, she admitted that managing three men had become exhausting, despite the excitement she derived from the arrangement.

Responding to the confession, relationship adviser Deidre warned that the woman’s behaviour could point to deeper emotional dissatisfaction and a possible feeling of emptiness.

The adviser suggested that experiences within her family, including a lack of affection between parents or towards her, could influence how she views love and relationships as an adult.

She advised the woman to reconsider her current relationship, arguing that it would be unfair to remain with a boyfriend she no longer considered suitable while secretly seeing other men.

Deidre further encouraged her to end the relationship before pursuing another one and to build trust with a future partner before becoming sexually involved.

The adviser stressed that a healthy relationship should provide emotional security, affection and mutual commitment rather than leaving someone constantly searching for satisfaction elsewhere.

The account has highlighted the complications that can arise when dissatisfaction, secrecy and infidelity become part of a romantic relationship.